The essentialness of “seeing what is not clear” so you can care for those within your care responsibilities.
When you are caring for someone, whether that person is your husband, wife, child, parent, friend, neighbor, workmate, etc., you must lead them by giving them more than what they have already presented to you. This is a huge thought that will require careful analysis.
To lead them is to give them something they have not already presented and/or something that is not clearly perceived by them. It is asking the LORD for the gift of analysis (discernment) to see beyond what has been presented.
How well am I being illuminated by the Spirit of God to help this person see what they cannot see?
To lead is to go beyond — to see beyond what is presented or what can’t be seen is something to pray for.
It’s like looking at the problem, but rather than focusing exclusively on the problem you’re looking around it, over it, under it, through it, and beside it so you can see what is not visible. This is illustrated in the book of Hebrews 11:27.
By faith [Moses] left Egypt, not being afraid of the anger of the king, for he endured as seeing him who is invisible.
Moses saw the problem — his imminent death — but he was able to find a solution by seeing what was invisible.
A constant prayer: “Dear LORD, help me to see what I cannot see.”
Marriage, parenting, discipling, and friendship are leadership contexts where we have to see things that are invisible to the person we are called to care for. Then we help them to see those things. Typically, the main thing a person does not see is the LORD.
May Moses instruct us.
The most effective spouses, parents, and friends are the ones who can do this well. This means the first two commandments — love God and love others — must authentically transcend all other loves, esp. our love for and allegiance to ourselves.